All posts by lamchri

The List

Postpartum Practices
Breastfeeding Duties for Dads
If My Child Marries Yours

How to Raise Well-Behaved Children
The Radical Notion that Children are People
Global Parenting Habits
Alternatives to No
Effective Child Discipline
Spanking is a disciplinary measure, not child abuse.
1000 Books Before Kindergarten
Is Your Child Ready for First Grade?
To Build or Break a Child’s Spirit
Why Kids Need to Move, Touch, and Experience to Learn
Non-Toy Gift Ideas
Kids Aren’t Expensive, Greed Is

Are My Kids Spoiled?
How to Talk about Sex
Kids Need to Move More
The Impact of Technology on the Developing Child
Reading to Kids Grooms them to Read on their Own
The Secret to Raising Smart Kids
Am I a Horrible Parent…?
The Day My Son Gave Up On Me 
One word that makes all the difference
Heart not hustle
6 Words to Say Today
The Important Thing about Yelling
Help Kids Manage Anger
Get Kids to Love Bible Study
Being a stay-at-home parent is a luxury for your spouse.

Moon Party


How do you raise well-behaved children?

Rapport. My wife and I would make a point whenever the boys were playing harmoniously of stopping what we were doing and joining in. When things started to get bumpy, we’d excuse ourselves. No admonishments, no commentary even. Pretty soon their play sessions were staying harmonious longer and longer as they tried to keep us engaged, not even knowing what the “game” was.

Travel and work. Starting the summer of age 12, they were all booted from the house and sent as apprentices somewhere… somewhere overseas by 14. Kids mature pronto when forced to rely on themselves and be accountable to other adults.

Our patient expectations for eventual success will pull a child through his difficulties.

Finally, I’d spent a day handing out promotional Frisbees for a store opening back in the day. Three-hundred mothers in a row droned, “What do you tell the nice man?” [blank look] “Thank you!” whereupon the kid would stammer out thank you without even looking at me. Long before kids I’d pledged never to be party to that farce. So, I’d simply say thank you on behalf of the boys. Soon, well before age 6, their own sense of autonomy would assert itself, and they’d beat me to the punch. So much less lame! – Charles Tips